As expected, i did the prayers all by myself this morning. I went downstairs to Ghim Moh Market to collect the paper offerings after i woke up at 8am. Then i proceed to buy a vegetarian meal for her. Went back home to collect the fruits and the other food offerings yesterday afternoon. And booked a cab to go there.
Before i started, i went in to take a look at the place where the ashes is being put. Well quite relieved to see that it's all done up.

It wasn't ready when i last went on the 49th day. Basically i heard from the in charge there, they actually have to ship this all this way from China so have to take 2-3 months just to have this done.
Hmmm maybe someone will ask me why i took a pict of this, well i need to remember the 2 lunar dates by the sides, and i didn't have writing materials with me. These 2 dates are the dates, beside the traditional Qing Ming festival, that i would be going down to pay respects.
After which, i carried on with the prayers. Lay out the food offerings. Tell some white lies that the kids cannot come because of the school and she cannot come due to work and offer joss sticks on their behalf. And after about 20-30 mins, obtaining "permission from her" by throwing coins to check if she has finished with the food before proceeding to burn the paper offerings.
After burning everything, got back to clear the mess left by the crows and pigeons. It was expected. But it isn't that bad like i first went there alone. This time, it's the vegetarian food, and the apples which got the nod. The first time, i didn't see anything left.
But nonetheless, have the basic courtesy to throw away the remaining food, leaving the place as clean as possible before i left.
But since i were there, went around to pray before various gods before i left the place.
Walked down the memory lane by walking to Toa Payoh North where Beatty Sec is. Even i never stayed before, that was the place when i spent my "rebel" years growing up. Playing basketball/soccer almost every other day after school, hate going home to face the reality, hate the fact of buying dinner everyday, hate the fact of having a sick mother, etc etc.
Hahaha i wasn't that perfect afterall.
But if someone told me that i would lost my late mother so early in my life, maybe i would treat her a little better.
Rest in peace , my late mother.
About the absence of the others, well no sms no call, so i took them as bo chap. If she can bo chap about this prayers, i can bo chap them as well.
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